A wedding – one of life’s great moments…
A wedding is one of life’s great moments, a time of solemn commitment as well as good wishes, feasting and joy. In the Bible, St John tells us how Jesus shared in such an occasion at Cana, and gave there a sign of new beginnings as he turned water into wine.
Marriage is intended to be a creative relationship, as God’s blessing enables husband and wife to love and support each other in good times and in bad. For Christians, marriage is also an invitation to share life together in the Spirit of Jesus Christ. In the Glen Group, we endeavour to provide the support necessary for couples to plan their marriage service and to celebrate it joyfully at St Mary’s, St Lawrence’s or St Bartholomew’s.
Love between couples is a precious gift – it needs to be recognised, celebrated and protected. That is the purpose of marriage.
Your wedding day gathers together all the resources you both need to make marriage work: deep personal promises; a public commitment to each other – whatever the future holds; the joining of two sets of family and friends; a trust that the God who gives us the gift of this life will inspire us with the love and forgiveness that can enable two lives to become one. Choose the ingredients of your wedding day carefully. Seek advice from the many people eager to help – parish priests and photographers, caterers and caretakers – and plan an occasion which will draw together all the resources you feel you need: then it will provide shape and direction for the rest of your lives together.
The procedure for couples wanting to be married at Pinchbeck,
West Pinchbeck or Surfleet
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What about fees?
These vary from church to church, and are subject to change without notice, but the table below should give you some idea of the amount of money you will need to set aside if you are planning a wedding in the Glen Group. For detailed and up to date information about fees please contact the Vicar’s Administrative Assistant for weddings, Mrs Pat Smith on 725 870.
The Order of
Service
Many couples today like to have a service sheet prepared for their Marriage service. Set out below is the information you will need to put together the order of service for your wedding.
Outline for the
Order of Service for Weddings
If you want to print the full text of the service you are welcome to do so, but you will need to ask for a copy of the full text. Provided here is the outline of the service, which you are asked to include in the service booklet as a minimum requirement. If you require the words of the hymns, please obtain these from the organist. Please proof-read the draft (if possible show the draft to the Vicar) before having multiple copies printed. If you would like the following sent to you as an email attachment, ask the Vicar. Front
Page: The design for the cover is up to you. But somewhere on the cover, please include:
Inside: Please print the following headings and prayers in the booklet exactly as set out below: The Welcome
God of wonder and of joy: grace comes from you, and you alone are the source of life and love. Without you, we cannot please you; without your love, our deeds are worth nothing. Send your Holy Spirit, and pour into our hearts that most excellent gift of love, that we may worship you now with thankful hearts and serve you always with willing minds; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
Hymn (if any) Please insert the words of the (first or only) hymn here.
The Declarations
Will you, the families and friends of N and N, support and uphold them in their marriage now and in the years to come? We will.
In addition to
the above, you may also include here either:
N and N have declared their intention towards each other. As their parents, will you now entrust your son and daughter to one another as they come to be married? We will.
Or
Who brings this woman to be married to this man? I do.
Please
include all of the following:
Scripture Reading
(If a friend or family member is going to read
this, you may wish to include the name of the person).
Hymn (if there are two hymns, include the words
of the second one here).
The Vows
The Giving of Rings (or The Giving of the Ring is there is only one)
The Blessing of the Marriage
Registration of the Marriage
(If there is to be music played here, you may
wish to say what is to be played or sung).
The Prayers The prayers conclude with
the Lord’s Prayer Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name; thy kingdom come; thy will be done; on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory, for ever and ever. Amen.
The Dismissal
Finally,
on the back page (or somewhere in the booklet) must be included the following
statements:
Further support for your marriage People
need spiritual and other resources and skills to make a success of their
marriage. Skills such as communication and conflict resolution are vital for
everyone, married or divorced, cohabiting or single, young or old. The
links to the following sites might help you gain helpful information and
assistance to make your marriage and other relationships work. Marriage Care An
organisation offering marriage preparation courses, advice and counselling: http://www.marriagecare.org.uk/ Care for the Family. Supports
families by providing resources, seminars and holidays: www.care-for-the-family.org.uk The Mother’s Union. MU is
involved in over 500 family support projects across the UK and Ireland. Among
these are holidays, play schemes, drop in centres, and parenting courses. The
Parish Contacts in the Glen Group for MU are: Surfleet
Mother’s Union: Lorna Webb 760 392 Pinchbeck
Mother’s Union: Janet Bettinson 766 170 The
Diocesan Headquarters and Office of the Mother’s Union in Lincoln: St
Benedict’s Centre, Lincoln. Phone 01522 527 145. |
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